Dancing with the Universe: trusting, taking action, and finding myself
I didn’t connect with my spirituality until my late 30s.
For most of my life, I thought spirituality was just… well, a bit of hippy nonsense. An excuse to sit back, let the universe handle everything, wave a crystal around, and skip the hard work. I believed if you wanted happiness, you worked for it. You earned it. You climbed the ladder, ticked the boxes, and kept going.
And I did. I had the job, the mortgage, the partner, the car. I was doing everything I thought I should.
But deep down, I didn’t feel like me.
It wasn’t until I started therapeutic coaching with Laura Phelan to untangle my food and body image struggles that everything began to shift. I realised those issues weren’t the root problem; they were just symptoms of something deeper.
I wasn’t living for myself. I wasn’t walking my own path. I wasn’t connected to the parts of me that were calling for more.
Once I let myself open up, really open up, to the idea that I was connected to something bigger, everything began to change. I saw that we are one with the universe, the earth, the trees, the animals. I let myself explore human design, breathwork, cacao, crystals, inner child healing, and so much more. Not as a checklist of spiritual “stuff,” but as a way of coming home to myself.
Now, spirituality isn’t something separate I “do.” It is part of how I live. It weaves into everything I am and everything I offer.
“I understand that being connected to the universe does not mean bypassing the hard stuff...
It means holding it with care.”
I remember the moment it really hit me.
It wasn’t some dramatic awakening or bolt of lightning from the sky. It was quieter, more gradual. It was me, sitting on the beach looking out to sea, realising how disconnected I had been… not just from the world around me, but from myself.
For so long, I had been living by the rules I thought I was supposed to follow. Chase the next thing, prove my worth, be a ‘good girl’, tick all the boxes. But inside, it felt a bit ‘meh’. The achievements weren’t landing in my heart the way I expected.
What surprised me most was that the answers I’d been searching for weren’t in a new job or a new hobby or a new wellness plan. They were in something far simpler but harder to reach: learning to listen to myself.
When I began exploring my human design, astrology, breathwork, cacao, crystals, inner child and shadow work - it wasn’t about collecting tools or performing rituals perfectly - it was about peeling back layers. Every time I softened into one of these practices, it felt like a conversation with a part of me I had ignored (more likely shut down, for years.)
I used to think spirituality was about finding something else, something external. But what I’ve learned is that it’s about remembering who I already am. It’s about remembering that I am part of this universe, just as the trees, the animals, the sky, and the sea are. It’s about remembering that there is no separation between the sacred and the everyday.
My spirituality now shows up in the quietest ways. In the way I move through my work. In the way I meet clients with presence, rather than performance. In the way I pause and ask myself, what feels right (and aligned) here? instead of what should I be doing?
It shows up when I let go of pushing and forcing and start listening instead.
It has not made my life perfect or tidy. I still have messy days. I still doubt myself. I still fall back into old patterns sometimes.
But now, I meet those moments with so much more tenderness. I understand that being connected to the universe does not mean bypassing the hard stuff. It means holding it with care.
For anyone reading this who is curious but unsure, I want you to know: you don’t have to rush to figure it all out. You don’t have to “do spirituality” a certain way.
Start where you are.
Begin by listening.
The parts of you that are longing for more are not broken or wrong. They are simply invitations. Invitations to come home to yourself.
And when you take even one small step toward that homecoming, you start to notice something extraordinary: the universe is already dancing with you. You just have to meet it halfway.
If You’re Just Starting to Explore
Please embrace this curiosity with an open heart. Put your ego aside. Get out of your busy, overthinking head and listen with your body instead. Let spirituality help you discover the parts of yourself you didn’t even know were waiting for you.
And if you are unsure where to start or want a little guidance, I recommend seeking support from an intuitive, trauma-aware, values-led coach… someone who lets your experience and desires shape the path, rather than pushing one-size-fits-all strategies or hustle-based success models! I also highly recommend getting your Human Design read; my absolute favourite for this is Lauren-Jane, who has a free Human Design Report tool you can access here.
Wherever you are on this path, I want you to know that you are allowed to explore this at your own pace. There is no right or wrong way, or time, to reconnect with yourself. You are not behind. You are not failing. You are simply human, unfolding in your own time. Let yourself be curious. Let yourself soften. Let yourself trust that the path will reveal itself, one gentle step at a time.
